Hypothetically Speaking...

..Let's just say that you have a friend/relative that you get into arguments with and at times really don't like to be around. I call them toxic friends. They really have nothing nice to say about anyone and, I believe, talking about other people makes them feel better. Yes, you are still friends because you may have been since third grade or better yet, you're related. This toxic person thinks they might be helping you by being brutally honest about things that really are not any of his/her business. Sometimes they will even do things just to make you upset and they come out smelling like fresh red roses. I know, why even be freinds with this person, right? But sometimes you can't escape relatives. AND in a small town it is almost impossible to avoid said toxic friend.
But when is it enough? When can you finally just say 'I have had enough'? I will tell you..for me...when they do something to really get at you, thinking that they are really doing no harm, BUT in the back of their little minds they are thinking 'this will show her'...really??? Are you kidding? It only makes them look even more toxic. That is the point of no return and you can never come back from that. Sure, someday they may try to make small talk, trying to get back on your good side because they may need something. By then, it's too late.
I have forgiven many times for petty little things, you are supposed to because you love them, afterall they are your friends or maybe even a realtive. But this one little big thing, I just can't. What would you do?
My very best friend went into the hospital for a routine outpatient procedeure and is now fighting for her life in ICU..I love her, because she is the only one who would have understood the above rant and doesn't judge anyone. She is the model best friend that everyone wants...I need her to be OK. Her kids need her.
That is my rant...if you have made it this far..thank you for stepping in for my best friend. SO please don't be a toxic friend. Think before you speak. And if you do something just to get at someone else...don't. Life is way too short.